Chores are important to incorporate in your family. Kids genuinely want to help out but only on their terms. However, if you’re an OCD mom like Tiffany and Laura you have a hard time letting go of the control that comes with knowing it’s done right. Moms as well as children do not enjoy chores because household tasks are simply boring, but things get dirty and we cannot live in a dirty house! So how must we go about teaching our children that chores are important and a must???
Chores = Work
Hence, We start with what God says about work, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward.” Colossians 3:23-24
Whatever task God has given us thru our parents, jobs, church and so on should be done with a grateful heart and for God’s glory only! We can reap the benefits of a job well done by living in a clean house, awarded at work, or awarding our children with praises.
Tiffany and Laura chat about what they have tested and tried in teaching their own children the habits of housework.
Laura has 4 children 9 years old all the way to 2 years old. Her children have been doing chores since they were 2 years old. Some of her kids are good cleaners and some not. She has tried to instill the importance of a clean room and taking care of the things we have. She has used all kinds of chore systems and the only one that seems to work is individual charts on the wall with a list of their daily chores. However, her kids still complete their daily chores and their weekly chores only because Laura reminds them to do so. She has not implemented a new chore system since her Mason Jar chart system was a fail. Laura believes the list of chores needs to be visible and not put into jars. Another simple but hard to do tip Laura shares is the importance of CONSISTENCY! Staying consistent is something many moms struggle with but Laura seems to be the worst at it! She has recognized this weakness…that’s the first step to becoming better right?? lol Also, with consistency comes following through. When we ask our children to perform a certain tasks and do not follow up on that particular tasks then we are not staying to true to our word. All moms get sidetracked and for get the tasks that started before, but one way Laura has become better at this is by setting a timer. Using a timer helps mom and child remember and it lets the child know that this particular chore should only take this amount of time.
To summarize, Laura’s few tips:
Implement a chore chart
Tiffany has 3 little ones all under the age of 6 who have not yet developed the daily chore habits due to being a young age and the struggle of it not being done correctly. Just like Laura, Tiffany has some OCD tendencies when it comes to tasks being done properly so she just assumes she will do it herself. She has been trying to work on letting go of “perfection” and allowing her kids jobs be considered well done. This is not an easy concept to “let go” of and it takes practice and lots of patience from God!
Andrew Pudewa and the IEW podcast! She has been told that she would greatly appreciate the talks with Andrew Pudewa. She really hadn’t given it much thought until she purchased the IEW Primary Arts of Language for her kindergartener. When you purchase this curriculum you receive several audio files explaining the reason behind their method of learning. After listening to the first podcast with Andrew Pudewa she was hooked! Learning made sense to her and she felt like a normal mom with the same frustrations all parents have in raising and home educating her children. Andrew Pudewa is a wealth of knowledge and actually funny too. If you have a chance, head over to the IEW podcast and listen in!
Tiffany is Diggin….
Tiffany is diggin’ Sonic’s new chocolate chip cookie ice cream sandwich! With 2 soft and yummy cookies on either side of some delicious ice cream, what’s not to love?